of weddings and commitment

my blog is about these couples who want to commit themselves to their loved ones and get married and eventually start their own family…

there are actually 2 things you need to consider and surpass if you want to get married… commitment and wedding preparation

commitment (as defined in wikipedia) means to duty or to pledge to some thing or someone. it can also be referred to as personal commitment which is a pledge or promise to ones’ self for personal growth.

being in a relationship isn’t only about love… it definitely needs this commitment factor! kasi baka naman you love the person, but di lang sya isa… maraming ka palang love! mahirap naman ata yun! hehe…

commitment in a relationship means exclusivity… exclusivity meaning no more dates with other people… no more going on blind dates…no more going on meeting other people… committing to one person means understanding, accepting, loving that person for who he / she is or is not. this commitment is not only for the now but also for the years to come…commitment is knowing you can live with that person for the rest of your lives… accepting all the quirks, all the imperfectness…

but of course, being in an exclusive relationship, or being committed doesn’t mean panay disadvantages lang… it has a lot of advantages!!! it’s like having a tag team partner all the time… you do stuff together, you go to parties together, you plan everything together, you solve problems together… maybe for some, this is nkakasawa… but then, when you are in love and you’re happy being with each other…even the simplest thing is so great… even staying at home and watching movies and just eating and just talking will make you happy… i should know, we do that all the time… for me, i just love being with babydenz…

if the time comes and you realize that you are ready to be with that one person… you are ready to share everything with that person. then you are ready to take the plunge… after being in a committed relationship for a while, where does it lead you? of course, to weddings… to being committed permanently… in the eyes of men and most importantly, in the eyes of god…

wedding (from proposal to engagement to church to reception to honeymoon)

yes! all women want their dream weddings to come true…

let’s say your guy proposed to you… in a romantic setting, a venue filled with flowers, a string quartet playing sweet music… good food… only the two of you… with a really huge engagement / proposal ring, he went down on his knees and asked you to marry him, to be his wife, or be with him for he wants to spend the rest of his life with you… you’ll definitely say I DO to that… don’t be hypocrites girls… uh uh…

enjoy the moment girls coz after that reality will sink in… and you’ll just not have the time to feel the moment anymore… preparing for a wedding isn’t as easy as it sounds… don’t you even wonder why so many wedding coordinators / organizers have popped out in less than 5 years???

we all want the best for our respective weddings… whether we are getting married now or we plan to in the near future… but there are a lot of factors to consider… let me start off with some – – deciding for the theme or the motif, looking for suppliers, deciding on what food to serve, where to hold the event, what church, how many guests you are to invite, who will be included in your entourage, who the ninongs / ninangs will be, barong or tuxedo.. white or ecru gown… so on and so forth… that’s why you and your guy should have an open line… open line to talk and discuss what needs to be decided… what should be prioritized… what should be given special attention to… what should be given a bigger budget…  or even, what is really the budget! yeah, like it or not… preparing for a wedding is very crucial… and sometimes, the planning takes out the fun you should have been enjoying with your fiance / fiancee in preparing for the one of the most important events of your couple-ness!

what i suggest to soon-to-wed couples is to search for cheap but good suppliers… you just need to be patient… there are a lot of them out there… and with internet, websites and multiply sites available to us in just one click, it wouldn’t be that frustrating anymore… be open to suggestions of friends… even ask them to help you for the preparations… be on the look out for alternatives… ask your friends for referrals… and have fun… yes, i didn’t say it’s going to be easy… but at least you’re having fun, right? these are the things that will make the wedding memorable to the couple…

remember that, even if you don’t get all that you dreamt of, even if you don’t achieve your dream wedding because of problems here and there.. even if you don’t get to honeymoon on that secluded island – amanpulo for example – and you ended up in hongkong or some hotel here, even if you ruined your make up because you cried so much because of happiness, even if not everybody enjoyed their food, even if you didn’t get all the gifts you chose for your bridal registry, even if…

the most important thing, is still, being with each other… the ultimate reason why you got married… is not because you wanted to get this supplier, or because you wanted to be shot by this particular wedding photographer, or because you want to wear a designer gown.. BUT BECAUSE YOU WANT TO BE TOGETHER FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIVES…

*hope you learned something from reading this blog… coz i sure did… 

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